Public display of affection is usually a turn off for most people and a turn-on for a few (including some who pretend to be turned off). On the other hand, public display of ‘disaffection’ is usually crowd drawing and you’d be surprised how much time people can spend idling around to watch and offer their deep insights into literally unfolding drama before them.
A friend and I were walking down the street one evening when we suddenly saw a curious crowd gathering around a couple pushing against the window of a shop. We, the curious cats, homed in on the crowd to try and get a better view. Picture this, Eve in a suit and high heels, gripping Adam with her hands around his waist. Adam, on the other hand, is holding a phone and looking at her dismissively and warning her to let go of him. Eve is shrilling back “give me my phone I need to go home!” She then informs a rather indifferent Adam that she had sprained her ankle (it seems we had missed a whole lot of the 1st episode) and demanded for her phone. Adam walks off; Eve transforms into Marion Jones, catches up with Adam, grabs at his jacket and continues to demand her phone. Adam does not relent, warns her that she hadn’t seen any drama yet, keeps walking but she runs after him again, and they both disappeared from the view of curious onlookers.
Know-it-all spectators weighed in and concluded that that phone contained some very incriminating evidence and that is why Adam has confiscated the phone. Judging from the look on her face, the curious onlookers decided that she was acting in a very guilty manner. She was condemned, and it was all about the phone and the way she seemed like she could give/do anything at that point to have it back. But how do you battle with adrenaline-charged biceps and an Adam determined to show that he cannot be scorned?
One would wonder what drives couples to a point of thrashing out the woes of their relationships in public. For those who may have been subjected to this kind of display, maybe the conclusion is that there is no logical explanation to it other than one thing led to another, tempers reached boiling point and before long, it quickly translated into a full-fledged low-budget short movie with no director or producer.
Maybe you’ve been out with couples who take jibes at each other and you’re left wondering why they opt to air their not so spotless laundry in public. It is the friends and those around that end up feeling the discomfort whilst the spouses are busy keeping their mental scoreboards on whose jibes were sharpest and who won that round, completely oblivious of how ridiculous they look. But it is probably worth mentioning that public fighting is a cheat. Women often get the upper hand in the argument because the man cannot stand up for himself without looking abusive.
Social networking sites have become the new hanging lines for relationships’ dirty laundry. For some people, it is perfectly alright to update their status on every activity that is happening in their relationship. All can appear to be smooth sailing when the leap is made from being single to being in a relationship but then when this transforms to ‘it’s complicated’ or reverts to being single, things can turn ugly much too publicly. Needless to say, another low budget movie could just start on someone’s wall. For some onlookers, it might seem funny but more often than not, the question that runs through many people’s heads is “why (or how) does it have to get to this?”
If a relationship has backslid, no need to tweet and update; lick the wounds, mourn and then get back into ‘circulation’. If an argument is getting ugly in a public, it is a good idea to sort out your dirty laundry out of the public glare.