It is not always that Project 44 receives e-mails from people asking for advice. We are not counselors and we admit that our ‘expertise’ is limited. Often times, we have shared our experiences and also written about general issues that afflict relationships. Very recently, we received an email which read:
I have read some of your posts on relationships on Project 44.
Now I have an issue that a friend is dealing with and she has asked for my assistance but whatever I tell her seems to fall on deaf ears. Maybe you can assist her and at the same time help others who read your blog and are going through the same thing.
She is married but her husband seems to have these strings of women. Most of them do not know that he is married. He has a public profile and has been using women as a platform to raise money. I know at least 5 of them who think he will marry them as that is what he has been promising. He actually started dating another friend of mine and I put a stop to it before things went too far. She too didn’t know that he is a married man.
About a week ago my friend got a phone call from some two women telling her that they have been dating her husband and they just wanted to let her know since they found out he is a married man and wanted her to know what kind of man he is. She is the breadwinner in the family as the man does not work but makes keeps up appearances so that to outsiders, he appears wealthy and as if he runs various businesses though whatever little he has is from his wife.
How would you assist in such a case? She has thought about divorce but does not seem to want to go ahead with it because she has a 18-month old baby.
Admittedly, this is a weighty matter and a lot is at stake here. We welcome you to weigh in bearing in mind that this is a real situation so let’s aim for sanity. We also recognize that at the end of the day, the lady in question will have to make the decision not necessarily based on what will be said here, but based on her relationship, her situation and what she wants her life to look like.
Have your say.